Pillars of Black Love

 

While attending premarital counseling our Pastor asked us to write a mission statement for our marriage. Neither of us knew where to start. However, once the ink from the pen hit the paper I just couldn’t stop writing! It literally felt like God placed His hand over mine and traced these words for us……..

We, D’Andre and Briana, commit to serve the Lord in our marriage by our display of faith, love, family and commitment to one another.

We commit to attending church together twice a month to fellowship in the house of the Lord. We will set aside one hour a week to talk about our goals and our future together. Lastly, we will set aside 1 day a week for date night.

In order to bridge our communication gaps, we will set aside ten minutes out of every day just to listen to each others feelings or needs. We will honor Christ in how we speak to each other, even and especially in times of conflict. We will seek to build each other up and not use words to tear each other down. We will listen to learn of each other’s feelings, not listen to win an argument. (1 Corinthians 13)

We understand that God gave us different roles to play in our marriage, and each of our individual strengths serve to create a strong marriage. D’Andre brings leadership, protection, sacrifice, and provision. Briana brings intelligence, influence, humility, and humor. The Lord is the third strand in this marriage, and He is our head, our strength, and our redeemer. Together, with the Lord we are powerful, wise and merciful.

As we walk this life together, we hope to be pillars of black love and strength to our family, friends and community.

With grace and love and faith we desire to create a marriage that glorifies the Lord.

I just have to repeat my favorite part, "As we walk this life together, we hope to be pillars of black love and strength to our family, friends and community". Because listen! I know there is a need in the black community to have visual images of black love. I know there is a need in black households to have examples of healthy black families. Most importantly, I know there is a need in the black community for LOVE! I spent this year being vulnerable to an audience of people who may not even care, but I do and I know what our communities need. I don’t care who gets bothered by our show of love or who thinks I’m “doing too much”. Truth is….I feel obligated to! We are on assignment to be PILLARS of BLACK LOVE and I’m going to keep giving it to you! 

UNAPOLOGETIC BLACK LOVE! 

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